How much do you agree with these statements?

1. Peace begins with me.

2. I have made my home a place of kind words.

3. I catch my children in the act of positive behaviours and praise them immediately, specifically and sincerely.

4. I spend at least 20 minutes a day with each child, listening, interacting, and giving my full attention.

5. I am clear on the standards of behaviour I expect of my children. I honour those standards and expect my children to do the same.

6. I provide my children with empty spaces of time during which they can just “be kids.”

7. I hold regularly scheduled family meetings where my children have a voice in the workings of our family.

8. I have set a foundation for peacefulness in our home by creating with my children “Guidelines/Tikanga for a Peaceful Whanau/Family.”

9. I always remember that I am the parent and deserve to be listened to.

10. I have fair, reasonable consequences for negative behaviours which I only use when necessary.

11. I listen with all my heart to what my children have to say, and teach them to be good listeners for others.

12. I teach my children how to handle anger in nondestructive ways and I model this consistently.

13. I resolve conflicts peacefully and teach my children to do the same.

14. I find ways to help my children succeed.

15. All my actions are guided by love, compassion, fairness, respect, and integrity. I nurture these attributes in my children.

16. I live my commitment to peaceful parenting; my commitment guides all my actions.

17. I remember daily that we each have an impact on the world around us and I teach this to my children.

Have a go at our questionnaire on the above questions to see how peaceful your parenting is!